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Some people may ask what a transgender is, why someone may want to come out as transgender, how to tell if someone is transgender, and more. In this blog, you will be learning a little more about the transgender community.
When a man or woman identifies as transgender it means that they identify as the opposite gender they were assigned to at birth. People who identify as transgender say that they were assigned a gender that is not true to who they are. Also for some transgender identified people, they do not want to fit into the category of male or female. They feel that those two genders do not fit them. In Latin the word “trans” means cross, meaning that transgender is another way of saying cross gender.
Coming out as transgender may be hard for some people. Some people may not want to come out as transgender because they think they might lose close friends, family members, and more things that mean a lot to them. Also they might not want to come out because they feel they would be bullied, thought of as weird, and they think that people will discriminate them.
Some of many ways that a person can come out as transgender is by knowing the person you are going to come out too, inform yourself about transgender people and or do research, being confident when coming out to someone, having patience during the process, and even reaching out to an LGBTQ hotline for advice. You should know the person you are coming out too because you have to have a person that you can trust with the information you are giving them. Being confident when you come out shows another person that it does not matter what people say you are who you are. Having patience when coming out is important because people may say ignorant things and you have to be ready for it. One LGBTQ hotline that can be called is “The Trevor Project” @ 866-488-7386.
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Written by Cecil “Brian” Scantlebury
When the term “Queer’ is used and or brought up to people, they might not understand where it comes from, what it means, or how to use it in a sentence.
The term Queer, comes from the acronym LGBTQ. Queer also had a history of being used as a derogatory term in news papers. Queer was a negative term for gay men that eventually turned positive. When used in newspapers Queer was another way of describing some who is abnormal and or strange. It also was another way of bashing gay men to make them feel bad about their identity.
Queer is an umbrella term. When a person identifies as queer , that means that the person does not want to be described as gay, bisexual, and or lesbian. In other words they do not have a specific orientation.
Some people in the LGBT community may still find the term Queer offensive. You would not want to say “Elizabeth is a Queer”. Instead you should say ” Elizabeth identifies as Queer”. This suggest that people in the queer community may want to be called what they identify as.
U -umbrella term
R– rainbow flag
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Written By Kavon Burrell
STDs are a big issue today, you should know that anyone can get them, it doesn’t matter your race, age, sexuality or even religion you are at risk for getting an STD. Make sure you always ask a person if they have an STD before you begin to be sexually active with the person. A person does not have to tell you if they have an STD, so make sure you and your partner get tested together. On the other hand if you have the HIV virus and you plan on being sexually active it is the law to tell your partner before engaging in any kind of sexual intercourse or you can get charged with criminal transmission of HIV.
So you may have heard of the Usher scandal recently. Usher was accused of passing on herpes to a women who claimed she tested positive for herpes after a sexual encounter with the R&B singer Usher. The women that chooses to stay anonymous, filed her own lawsuit and is suing Usher for $20 million. So you may ask why bring up the Usher situation? Well this situation is a perfect example on as to why you should consider asking your partner about their sexual status before having any sexual contact with them. And if your partner doesn’t want to disclose that information with you (keep in mind your partner doesn’t have to tell you) then I’m sorry to say it wasn’t mean’t to be. So remember always ask because everyone should have the right to know!
I’M NOT YOUR JEZEBEL!
I’M NOT YOUR PROPERTY!
I’M NOT MEANT TO BE OWNED!
I’M NOT HERE FOR YOUR SATISFACTION!
I’M NOT HERE FOR YOUR APPROVAL!
I’M NOT YOUR GUILTY PLEASURE AT TWO A.M!
As a black woman, my positive attitude towards sex is always conflicting with the “Jezebel myth”. I’m expected to say “yes”to anything involving sex.
SEX. SEX. SEX.
It’s all that seems to roll off the tongues of a culture built on the exploitation, degradation and subjugation of individuals who don’t fit the socially constructed image of white Anglo-Saxon males and women.
Its ok to say “no”, its ok to say “yes”. You are HUMAN. You are not someones property, you are not owned, you are not their to satisfy anyone’s needs, you do not need someone else’s seal of approval. You got your own! And lastly you are no one’s guilty pleasure at 2 A.M. when they cannot find the bright orange cantaloupe they so badly would like to dig their fingers into. You are not a piece of fruit meat to be scraped out and tossed away.
Written by Wislande Francisque
Everyone wished they knew the consequences to their action before they made them. You can only hope for the best. Before judging, reprimanding, shaming someone for aborting a baby let’s examine the situation. As much as we want this world to be judgement free, realistically it isn’t. Therefore, let’s realistically analyze the possible scenarios without bypassing any details. One possible and mostly spoken about is rape. If a child is a product of rape, the mother may not want the relive that moment for the rest of her life. However both party’s are victims, some may wonder is eliminating one victim the solution to a better life for the other victim; perhaps, perhaps not. Another scenario may be that the mother is young or feels unfortunate and feels as though they won’t sufficiently provide for their child as they would’ve wanted to.
The question that most would ask is why even have sex, knowing that there is a possibility that a child would eventually come in the picture? There is no answer to this question. Its almost rhetorical because no one has the right to tell one what they should or shouldn’t be doing with their body. Lastly, suppose that someone just does not want the baby. They’d rather go to the extreme measures to get rid of the baby. Should they be called monsters for wanting something to do something so tragic? Perhaps, perhaps not. What I am getting to is that abortion is a choice made by the mother to be or not to be, not you, not the public, not the government, no one.
What is safer sex (safe sex)?
Safer sex is all about protecting yourself and your partners from sexually transmitted infections. Safer sex helps you stay healthy and can even make sex better.
Watch this video to understand the basics of STDs
How does safer sex help protect me from STDs?
STDs are infections that are passed from one person to another during sexual activity. Anybody who has oral, anal, or vaginal sex, or genital skin-to-skin contact with another person can get STDs. Safer sex (often called “safe sex”) means taking steps to protect yourself and your partner from STDs when you have sex.
There are lots of ways you can make sex safer. One of the best ways is by using a barrier — like condoms, female condoms, and/or dental dams — every single time you have oral, anal, or vaginal sex. Barriers cover parts of your genitals, protecting you and your partner from body fluids and some skin-to-skin contact, which can both spread STDs.
Getting tested for STDs regularly is also part of safer sex, even if you always use condoms and feel totally fine. Most people with STDs don’t have symptoms or know they’re infected, and they can easily pass the infection to their partners. So testing is the only way to know for sure whether or not someone has an STD.
By Wislande Francisque
Choice was a luxury women did not have until recently. Woman did not have a choice to have an education, a choice to vote, a choice to choose their own sexual partner, a choice to express themselves whether it be through clothing or special talents and most of all woman did not have a choice on keeping their baby whether that child is conceive through rape or through love. Some women may have been able to settle for such atrocities but some though considered illiterate wanted a change, a voice. It’s difficult knowing that a child is a result of constant abuse, verbally and physically. Therefore we rebelled, demanding that we no longer be seen as weak and unreliable but as strong, bright and with a lot more potential than many can ever imagine. To some extent this effort succeeded, women now have the right to abort a baby in all fifty states.
After reading the beginning of this page, one may have the impression that I am applauding abortion. May I put your mind at ease and tell you that I am not disagreeing nor agreeing with abortion. However, I am acknowledging the choices that we have that wasn’t there before. Someone may abort their baby and find peace with it, someone else may abort their baby and live a life full of regrets and guilt. It all comes down to having the liberty to chose, to one question; who’s it going to be, the baby or me?
By Nayancie Matthews
The world constantly silences and oppress women whether is be through a socially constructed gender identity or a genetically constructed sexual identity. This is an old double standard dictated through in which men were rewarded for sexual prowess and women suffered a damaged reputation. Most of all, if a relationship resulted in pregnancy, it was the woman who was left with the responsibility. This concept has been passed down through centuries. So when Texas decides to target women’s reproductive health through the Senate Bill 25 it comes as no surprise. The Senate Bill 25 allows doctors and care providers to without information regarding the fetus health condition. Therefore, if the doctor can detect that the fetus can possibly be born with a disability they do not have to disclose such sensitive information to you. One can only wonder who this bill is protecting, and/ or helping.
Women’s anatomical right should not have to be voted on by politicians, many of who couldn’t care less about women’s reproductive rights. Being a black woman I’ve seen many anti-abortion politician exploit black women to justify their points. PRENDA was a ludicrous, disingenuous bill that exploits stereotypes about black women to ban so called “race-selective” abortion. So when woman’s womb are seen by our patriarchal society as only a place for committing genocide and not bearing life and not acknowledging that it takes two to bring life into this world, it’s an issues. An even larger issues when looking at the fact that men’s reproductive rights are never put on the stand.
Pregnancy is a huge decision and responsibility so when a women can not know the basic knowledge that a doctor could choose to withhold from her regarding her pregnancy it’s a huge problem. Nine percent of women suffer from post trauma depression after giving birth and tends to rise with the more responsibility the woman encounters with the child. So withholding information that a woman can either use to prepare for a child or decide that she doesn’t want a child to suffer in this world with a disorder is completely up to her not the state.
Reproductive health is central to women’s liberation, to attain it one must address all the obstacles women face: sexism, economic injustice, social stigma, violence, the list goes on. For women of color the list may include, but not limited to racism. We must treat women as whole, complex and unique human beings.